Saturday, February 22, 2025

The Angel of Intramuros

Wars are started by rulers and politicians. Ordinary working men and women do the fighting and killing. It is also ordinary working men and women that do the dying, along with the poor and innocent children. There are no two sides to a war, there is only one because all of mankind suffers. Whether you willingly participate, are forced to participate or are just an innocent bystander, you suffer. Rulers and politicians do not understand all will suffer when they start a war. 

Manila, 1945. The city burned as the Battle of Manila raged between American forces and the Japanese Imperial Army. Streets once filled with life had become graveyards of shattered homes, bloodied rubble, and the cries of the dying. It was in this chaos that Sergeant James Calloway, a U.S. soldier, stumbled upon a scene that would haunt him forever.

Through the smoke and ruin of Intramuros, he saw her—a young Filipina girl, barely a teenager, clutching a lifeless infant wrapped in a bloodstained cloth. She was barefoot, her dress tattered, her eyes hollow with grief. Calloway rushed to her, but she did not react. She simply stared ahead, as if she had already accepted death.
 
Gently, he lifted her into his arms. She did not resist, but her lips trembled. “Nanay… Tatay… nasaan sila?” she whispered in a weak voice. ("Mother… Father… where are they?")
 
A nun rushed past them, cradling another child, her face streaked with tears. The convent had been bombed, and the orphans she cared for were either missing or dead. The girl in Calloway’s arms had been one of them.
 
As he carried her through the wreckage, stepping over bodies and smoldering ruins, Calloway felt the weight of war crushing his soul. This wasn’t victory. This wasn’t liberation. This was tragedy.
 
Reaching a makeshift medical station, he laid the girl down. A medic checked her pulse and gave a solemn nod. She was alive, but barely. As Calloway turned to leave, she gripped his hand.
 
“Will you find them?” she asked.
 
He wanted to promise her, to tell her that her family would be waiting. But he had seen the massacre at Intramuros. He knew the answer.
 
Instead, he knelt beside her and whispered, “I’ll stay with you.”
 
She smiled weakly before her eyes fluttered shut.
 
Decades later, Calloway, now an old man, still remembered that moment—the war, the girl, the broken city. He never learned her name, but in his heart, she remained the Angel of Intramuros, a symbol of the innocence lost in war, and the reminder that some wounds never heal.
 
Photo credit: John Tewell

Friday, January 17, 2025

Family and Home (updated 2/4/25)

 Family

What does family mean to you? Take a minute to maybe write down your own definition of a family. If you compare your definition with others, you would find both similarities and differences. For example, would your definition of family include:
  1. A friend or neighbor who is not a blood or legal relative
  2. An adopted or foster child
  3. Children who were once step-siblings after the remarried couple divorces
  4. A married couple without children
  5. A person who cannot live independently on their own
  6. A sibling who married outside the family’s religious faith and/or race
  7. A beloved family dog or cat
  8. The spouse of a deceased friend

You might be surprised to learn how others respond to these different family types. In fact, you might be surprised at how you respond. What would be your reasoning for including a particular family type or leaving them out? Defining who is and is not family is foundational to your identity, communication, and how you live your life. 
 
My personal definition of "family" includes all of the above. I would consider opening my home to a close friend or neighbor who might have lost their home to weather or fire related circumstances. An adopted or foster child that I have grown to love. Children who were once step-siblings and have no where else to turn (Lolly & I have one of those). A married couple with or without children who have lost everything and needs help. A person who cannot live independently on their own. I would not turn away a sibling who married outside my or the family’s religious faith or race. Inclusion of those who need help into my "family", whether or not they are "blood" relatives, is part of my belief, faith and trust in God. 

Part of navigating life’s many challenges, finding and being welcomed as part of a family is one of our most central needs and a gift we can offer to others. We also take comfort in knowing there is no one way to be a family. This knowledge helps us understand and appreciate families in all their breadth and richness as they develop and change over the course of their lives. Rather than put up roadblocks, we all have an opportunity to benefit, learn from, and support families among our neighbors, community members, and among our own household and extended family. 

There is no perfect family, we do not have perfect parents, we do not marry a perfect person or we do not have perfect children. We have complaints from each other. We can not live together without offending one another. We are constantly disappointed. Yes for so many reasons at various times we are disappointed by one another. 
 
There is no healthy marriage or healthy family without the exercise of forgiveness. Forgiveness is the medicine of family joy and happiness. Forgiveness is vital to our emotional health and spiritual survival. No matter the offense or who is the offender. Without forgiveness, the family becomes an arena of conflict and a fortress of evil. Without forgiveness, the family becomes sick and unhealthy.  Forgiveness is the healer of the soul, the purification of the spirit and the liberation of the heart. 
 
No sin is too big to be forgiven. He who does not forgive does not have peace in his soul  and can not have communion with God. Unforgiving is Evil and a poison that intoxicates and kills the one who refuses to forgive.  Keeping forgiveness  in your heart is a self-destructive gesture. Those who do not forgive are physically, emotionally and spiritually ill. 
 
For this reason, the family must be a place of life and not a place of death; a place of forgiveness, a place of paradise and not a place of hell; A healing territory and not a disease; an internship of forgiveness and not guilt. Forgiveness brings joy where sorrow has brought sadness; of Healing where sorrow has caused  disease. 
 
A family is a place of support and not of gossip and slander of one another. It must be a place of welcome not a place of rejection. Shame to those who plant evil about others. The individuals who form a family are not enemies. When anyone in a family is going through a challenge they need support of others in that family.

Home

What images does your mind conjure up when you think of home? The house where you grew up? Family? Friends? A city or town? The house where you presently live? Or is home a state of mind?  

When I think of home I think of love. It is where I get love and give love, freely with no strings attached. Home to me, is not a “place” it is a collective group of personal attitudes and emotions from the people around me that accept me and my life as it is, with no apologies, no expectations and requiring no changes.
 
Home is a feeling of belonging, where my beliefs are not held against me; where my actions or inaction are not judged; where my words are not manipulated or taken out of context. It's a place of peace and happiness and a reflection of my identity.  
 
Home is a place of caring and sharing. Caring that comes from the heart, based on God's love for us and our sharing of that love with those around us. Home is a place of caring and sharing with no expectations, judgements of past life experiences or restrictions.

My concept of home has been shaped by culture, both my wife's culture and mine, along with our families and experiences. Home is a place where I can reflect on the past, a place where I can talk about the present without fear of judgement, retribution or resentment and a place to dream about the future. Home is that little slice of paradise that is completely my own. Home is also something I am willing to share with those who try to understand me and my life without judgement or resentment. 
 
I left home when I was really just a boy of 18. Fresh out of High School and classified "1A" for the Vietnam draft. I found that I could get an education, see the world and possibly not have to engage in combat if I enlisted in the Navy. 
 
I spent 11 years in the Navy, I received an education in electronic and computer communications and networks that was recognized around the world. I traveled extensively throughout Asia and the Pacific. At one point, I was asked to participate in a special mission that would involve combat. I volunteered without hesitation or reluctance; willingly accepting the mission. Probably because I wasn't fully prepared for the intensity of wartime death and destruction, I fell into a deep state of depression upon returning to the US. 
 
Because I was cogent of all the death and destruction I had done in the name of my country, and of my depression, I was ashamed of both. That made it hard for me to communicate with people, especially those who had no idea of what I  experienced. I had few friends and it was very hard to make new ones. Two things kept me going for 8 years, phone calls to my Mother and I was really good at my job. 
 
Then one day I walked into a Church and asked God for help. A few days later, I met a beautiful young woman who gave me a reason to live, and later, someone to love. My healing of heart, mind and soul started the day we met and continues. 

In America ours is a culture of "Me and Mine" in my wife's country it is a culture of sharing. In America we put ourselves first, what's mine is mine, what's yours is yours. When Americans share they call it a good deed, pat themselves on the back for doing good. In my wife's country, sharing is a part of everyday life. You don't have to be family of even a friend to share or receive from those who share. "love your neighbor" is a way of life, not just a commandment we say should be followed. I've grown to adopt the sharing way of life. It's closer to the path that Jesus took when he walked the earth. It has made me and the people around me more tolerant of each other and more joyful.   

Although I was not a Catholic at the time, I was married in the Catholic Church with a full Nuptial Mass. It took a long time for us to find a Priest that would marry us, but our persistence paid off. I had to attend a lot of meetings and classes. At first I had a few misgivings about things I didn't fully understand at that time, but my love for my future wife was much more powerful than the misgivings. I was honest with myself, my future wife, the leaders of the Church and with God. 
 
My siblings have called me a failure as a son and a brother because I did not come back home when I was discharged from the Navy. To them I say, Read Genesis 2:23 & 24, Ephesians 5:31 and Matthew 19:5. I'm following God's plan, not my own. 
 
Genesis 2:23 & 24 - And the man said: “This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called ‘woman,’ for out of man she was taken.” For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh. 
 
“For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh” is also Bible verse that appears in Ephesians 5:31 and Matthew 19:5.
 
God's original plan for Man was for him to leave his parents and siblings and start a new life with his wife who has become one with him through the covenant of marriage witnessed by God. I didn't go home for two reasons. I was ashamed of the depression and what I had become, more animal than human. I did not want to put that burden on my family. I also had a job I liked and was good at and it paid close to 4 times my Navy salary.

My siblings have called me an idol worshiper because I now have Catholic beliefs. I was, along with my siblings, raised in a Baptist family. After much study and reflection on my own life, I find Catholic beliefs are no different from Baptist beliefs. The difference between Catholic and Baptist is not in beliefs but in how we worship. Catholicism is more spiritual than Baptist worship. To my siblings, I ask do you think of our Mother, who was raised in a Catholic family, as an idol worshiper; to my one sibling who married a Catholic man, do you think of him as an idol worshiper, and how about your children who are Catholic, are they idol worshipers? 
 
My siblings have said I should have known better than to voluntarily enlist in the US Navy and volunteer to go to combat when asked. To that I ask do you think that our father who was one of the first to hit the beach at Attu Island in Alaska during WWII should have known better? How about most of the men in our family of the previous generation, should they have known better than to enlist in military service during WWII? To my sibling who married a Vietnam Veteran, should he have known better? I'm proud of my military service, every minute of it. Knowing what I know now, if I could turn back the clock, I would enlist all over again. So, go ahead and be like the young people during the Vietnam era throw your garbage at the uniform. I'll just ignore it and keep walking away. 
 
My siblings say I hate my Mother. I don't know where that comes from, my Mother and I were very close, She kept me going during the time I was suffering through a very deep depression. If it wasn't for my Mother, I wouldn't be here posting this today, I would have succumb to the affects of my depression long before I met my wife. 
 
My wife and I are under 2 Flags, from 2 Countries, of 2 Cultures, but of 1 Heart. Families should also be of one heart and that heart should be nurtured through love, respect for each other, caring for each other and sharing that love, respect and caring with all those we come in contact with. In my heart, mind and soul, family and home are both one and the same. Family is not people, Home is not a place; they are both feelings and emotions that are born out of respect, love and caring.   

Friday, January 10, 2025

Winterville (in progress 1-10-25)

In 2004 Lolita and I both got jobs at East Carolina University (ECU) in Greenville NC. After a few months, we found a house in Winterville NC.
 
The area is called East Carolina. About one hour from the coast, its steeped in American and Nautical history, with beautiful mountains to the west, the highest on the East Coast; beautiful rolling plains of the Piedmont area; and the most beautiful and dangerous coastline anywhere in the world.
 
Lolita was faculty in the ECU Lifelong Learning Program.  I started out managing the North Carolina Research and Education Network (NCREN) on the main campus. My job was to provide the technology for international University programs and in many cases, assist professors in creating international programs. ... Today, we are both retired from ECU.

Town of Winterville  

Winterville NC 

Town of Winterville - FB 

 

Fresno (in progress updated 1-10-25)

Fresno was great for us, we both had good jobs, Lolly at Fresno State University and me with the city. Even with house and car payments we were able to furnish our house and save money. While we were there, I finished my bachelor degree in Network Engineering. I was lucky, because Lolly was faculty, I could go to the University for $5 per semester. ... Not a bad deal!  

I don't have a picture of our Fresno house, as soon as I find one I'll get it here.

 

Imperial Beach (in progress updated 1-10-25)

After we got married we lived in Coronado Manor Apartments, very close to Imperial Beach and the border. 


We were there for about 3 years? I was working out in the Mohave Desert and came home on weekends. Lolly taught school at St. Charles Catholic School just around the corner from the apartment. Then she got a great job offer at California State University at Fresno. So, we went there and bought our first house.

San Diego (in progress updated 1-10-25)

 

San Diego was where I was discharged from the Navy. I had a GREAT job lined up a month before I got out. I was living in an apartment at the corner of Mission Gorge Road and Zion Avenue.  I was in an apartment on the opposite side of the front. I was living there when I met Lolly.
 

Across the street on Zion Ave. was a small shopping area. It had a grocery store, small hardware store, a barbershop, tavern and Thrifty drugstore. Across the street on Mission Gorge Rd. was another small shopping area with an IHop restaurant (at that time it was called Sambo's). Today, the whole area is one big shopping mall with a hospital behind it. There wasn't much traffic when I was living there, but it's probably hard to get out of the apartment complex now. I'm glad I'm not there anymore. It's REALLY built up.

US Navy (in progress updated 1-10-25)

I left for the Navy and the USS Oriskany in 1969.I came back for a short while, about a month, in 1976, after my second enlistment. I had every intention of getting out of the Navy but I could not find a job that paid enough for me to get an apartment and live on my own. So, back I went to the Navy and the USS Longbeach

When I decided to go home after my second enlistment, I really didn't know how much I would miss the sea life. It was a hard life, there was danger every where you turned; but I felt I had a purpose, there was a reason for me to be there, I was respected as a part of a team working for all of America. Life in Illinois seemed less fulfilling than the life I had at sea. So, I went back and I have no regrets.  

Most of the places I called "home" in my younger years have changed so much, I probably would not recognize them today and in many of those places, the memories have faded with the changes. When you move around a lot, a move tends to turn a home into just a place you used to live. But there is one "home" that has resisted that change to being just a place, a home that although I miss it, I can never go back to. 
 
That's because it isn't a "place" its a feeling inside of me, a feeling from my soul. That "feeling" is made up of many different things. Its working my butt off for 3 or 4 days with no sleep, when I did sleep it was in my workspace or battle-station in a rickety old chair, kicked back on a workbench with my feet propped up on a stool; it's living on coffee and mid-rats for months at a time; Its bracing for incoming rounds; its standing inspection in the blazing heat on the flight-deck of a carrier; its underway replenishment working parties and 24 hour flight ops; its trying to make your way from one workspace to another during a cat 4 hurricane. Then just when I felt myself wilting to the deck from exhaustion, not caring about anything, a friend shoves a cup of coffee in my hand offers me a cigarette and tells me to take a break on the fantail.  

 
The fantail is a special place on a ship. Especially at night when the stars are out. Its quiet, so quiet you can hear the silence of the sea. The fantail is for thinking and dreaming, sometimes they are both the same. The fantail rejuvenates you like nothing else, after about 10 minutes I was always ready to jump into the chaos of the next catastrophe. 

Shipboard life is different from every thing else, it can't be explained, it can only be experienced and once experienced, it never leaves you. You hate it because of the endless work,  hard and rough times but you also love it with a love that can not be explained, it can only be felt. Sometimes I think that if I was asked, I'd go back but I know that would be wrong. At my age, I would not be able to keep up with the younger sailors, I would be a burden and I just could not do that to a shipmate. Nothing can compare with being on a warship headed for enemy lines. ... And you haven't lived until you've lived through a WestPac Liberty.
 
President John F. Kennedy at the commissioning ceremony of the USS Oriskany said:
"I can imagine no more rewarding a career. And any man who may be asked in this century what he did to make his life worthwhile, I think can respond with a good deal of pride and satisfaction, 'I served in the United States Navy'."

I agree.





New Lenox (in progress updated 1-10-25)

The second house I remember was in New Lenox Illinois. The town was originally named Tracey in honor of the general superintendent of the Rock Island Railroad. Mr. Tracy later requested that the community be renamed New Lenox after the Township which was named after Lenox, New York. The Village of New Lenox wasn't officially created until October 4, 1946. New Lenox is known as "The Home of Proud Americans", which exemplifies the quality of life in the community.

329 Poplar Lane, New Lenox Illinois. It looks a lot different now than when it did when I left. When I left in 1869, the garage wasn't there nor was the connecting structure to the house. Dad built all that. The second garage (far right) wasn't there either. It looks great now.  

I went from 6th grade at Oster-Oakview school through Lincoln-Way High School (now called LW Central...there are 3 LWs now) in this house. I was baptized in the First Baptist Church of New Lenox just after I turned 18.  

I can't say that I did it because of my "beliefs". At that age and during that time I was interested in only 3 things; cars, girls and the Vietnam draft. I was 1A and could not get out of it. So, I enlisted in the Navy. Looking back, I really can't say that I was a "Christian" man, I was just "covering all the bases" with the baptism. 

I loved this house, at the end of a dead-end street. There was a lot of land with it. We grew just about all the fruit and vegetables we needed. Mom canned enough to get us through the winter. We also raised chickens for eggs and meat. At the far end there was a creek running through it. I could have an adventure every day.  

Because the house and the area has changed so much, I don't really think of it as "home" any more.  

Oaklawn (in progress updated 3-10-25)


The first house that I remember living in was at 6828 West 96th Place in Oaklawn Illinois. (I can't believe I still remember the address) My dad built the garage, it was a kit that he had delivered, then he bought extra material and built it 10 feet longer and 10 feet wider than a standard garage back then (1950s). He wanted room for a workshop. I remember he had a pot-bellied wood burning stove in there for the cold winter days. The house had an attached garage but my Dad turned it into a playroom. Behind the house off a little to the right was a Baptist Church that we went to. Donald Smith Memorial Baptist Church. 
 


 
I remember the Pastor was a real short guy. We all called him Dr. Dick.  
 
Now it's St. Mary's Malankara Orthodox Syrian Church. It still looks the same as I remember it on the outside but the inside has changed a lot. Like me, it converted. The original Baptist Church was a memorial to a boy who drowned at Fox Lake in a boating accident.  

I went to an elementary school called Dearborn Heights Elementary School, just a few blocks from home. Now it is Kolmar Avenue Elementary School. It's gotten much bigger than it was when I went there. When it was Dearborn Heights, we had a lot of grassy fields around it where we played baseball football and all kinds of other stuff.  
 
 
My older sisters went to Simmons Middle School on 95th Street. It was much smaller back then. 
 

 My Oldest sister graduated from Oak Lawn High School. It is also a lot bigger than I remember.
 


The history of Oak Lawn, Illinois, began in the early 19th century when individuals purchased large tracts of land in the area. The village was incorporated in 1909 and experienced rapid growth in the 1950s and 1970s. Oak Lawn is known for some of its popular attractions, which include: Children's Museum in Oak Lawn. Juicy Luzy Sangria, and the South Side Escape Rooms. If you're interested, you can read more about Oak Lawn's local history at the library.
 
Oak Lawn Illinois - Wikipedia 

 

Chicago (in progress updated 1-10-25)

I was born in Chicago in the old - Cook County Hospital. Chicago, on Lake Michigan in Illinois, is among the largest cities in the U.S. The City of Chicago is located on land that is and has long been a center for Native peoples. The area is the traditional homelands of the Anishinaabe, or the Council of the Three Fires: the Ojibwe, Odawa, and Potawatomi Nations. 
 
I don't remember much about Chicago; just going to my Grand Parents apartment, my Uncle Bob's house and my Uncle Charles's house. Uncle Bob had a ton of kids, I remember my Mom telling me he worked on the docks unloading ships from the lakes and that he worked on merchant ships during WWII. Uncle Bob was Mom's brother. Uncle Charles was Dad's brother, he and Dad both worked at Fisher Body Division of General Motors. Dad and Uncle Charles were mechanics working on the big machines that stamped out parts for General Motors cars. 
 
I'm not sure of where we lived when I was born, whether it was somewhere in Chicago or Oaklawn. I have a birth certificate somewhere around here, it might have where we lived on it. As soon as I find it again I'll check.  
 
Famed for its bold architecture, Chicago has a skyline punctuated by skyscrapers such as the iconic John Hancock Center, 1,451-ft. Willis Tower (formerly the Sears Tower) and the Neo-Gothic Tribune Tower. The city is also renowned for its museums, including the Art Institute of Chicago with its noted Impressionist and Post-Impressionist works.  
 
Chicago is also an international hub for finance, culture, commerce, industry, education, technology, telecommunications, and transportation. It has the largest and most diverse finance derivatives market in the world, generating 20% of all volume in commodities and financial futures alone. 

 

Chicago Walking Tour
 
Chicago Travel Guide

The Potawatomi Tribe
Potawatomi Beliefs
Potawatomi Cultural Center 
History & Culture of the Ojibwe Tribe 
Ojibwe People
Ojibwe History and Culture 
Ottawa Tribe History 
Ottawa Culture
Ottawa Heritage

Saturday, December 14, 2024

First Mass in the Philippines

 

March 31 commemorates the anniversary of the first Catholic Mass in the Philippines in 1521.

Each year Filipinos commemorate the anniversary of the first Catholic Mass celebrated on the island of Limasawa in Southern Leyte.

According to Vatican News, “On Easter Sunday in 1521, Father Pedro de Valderrama celebrated the first Catholic Mass in what is now the Philippines, specifically on the island of Limasawa in Southern Leyte.

The date was March 31, and the Spanish priest was part of an expedition to the so-called ‘East Indies’ led by the Portuguese explorer Ferdinand Magellan.”

The Mass was celebrated on an “improvised altar” and the congregation included local inhabitants.

The past few years have seen several jubilee celebrations, celebrating 500 years since the first Mass. Those celebrations were postponed during COVID in 2021, but were held successfully in 2022.

John Burger also adds in his article for Aleteia that, “Since 2013, Filipino Catholics have been observing a nine-year preparatory cycle to prepare for the great anniversary. With a particular theme assigned to each year, the Church in the Philippines has sought to deepen and reinvigorate its missionary character, with programs tailored by each of the country’s dioceses and archdioceses.”

Friday, December 13, 2024

My Realization of Self and God (updated 3/3/25)

I never thought much of my spirituality and how it affected the people around me. Especially my family, relatives and friends. I always thought it was strictly between myself and God. Growing up as a young boy no one ever called me a name, or degraded me in any way because of my "religion" or my "religious practices." I never had to defend myself against harsh religious comments. I can't say that we all "respected" each other's religion; Sixth grade and below, we didn't really understand things such as respect and religion; Seventh grade and above; guys were more interested in girls and cars and girls were more interested in guys and their cars. Religion wasn't one of the personal characteristics we were interested in. As an adult however, it seams to be just the opposite. Religion and the religious practices of a person are very important to that person's family and friends. Sometimes a change in a person's religion or religious practices causes such an outrage in that person's family that the person becomes ostracized from his or her family.
 
My "spirituality" has become a concern of some in my immediate family. My beliefs and spiritual life is not the same as it was when I left home at the age of 18 after enlisting in the Navy. Words such as "idol worshiper" and "Mary worshiper" have been used by those who I hold in very high esteem. 

Nothing, could be further from the truth. Catholics do not worship idols. We worship the way Jesus did, through prayer and living life according to the law as set down in the 10 Commandments. The “Mass” began when early Christians gathered together in their homes to share a meal in memory of Jesus, as he had asked them to do on the night before he died (“The Last Supper”). There is no "obligation." We Catholics get together to pray, read the Scriptures, and share the meal as it is written in Acts 2:42-47:

"They devoted themselves to the apostles’ teaching and to fellowship, to the breaking of bread and to prayer. Everyone was filled with awe at the many wonders and signs performed by the apostles. All the believers were together and had everything in common. They sold property and possessions to give to anyone who had need. Every day they continued to meet together in the temple courts. They broke bread in their homes and ate together with glad and sincere hearts, praising God and enjoying the favor of all the people. And the Lord added to their number daily those who were being saved." 

There is is nothing in the modern Mass that is not in the Holy Scriptures. There is nothing in the modern Mass that is used out of it's context in the Holy Scriptures. 

The life values I have now, have been born out of war, predigest, destruction and love, kindness and sharing. I respect everyone and their view of what I have become, even if I don't agree with their assessment. when I was very young, patience was one of the things I lacked and a temper was something I had in abundance. Today I have an abundance of patients and the strength and guidance from God to use it wisely against the temper I once had. So, bring on your judgements of me but also know that I leave judgement to God. I will continue to live the religious practices, traditions and spiritual mannerisms I have learned from the Catholic Church, prayer and research. I leave it to the Lord to defend His religious practices, traditions and spiritual mannerisms as they are lived out in my life.
 
Some might say I "converted" to Catholicism but, no, I think I grew into it. It took a lot of thinking, soul-searching, research, looking back and looking forward, trying to see how God and spirituality fit into my life. It did not happen "overnight" or even over a decade.
 
I was born into a white Anglo-Saxon Protestant world - Baptist to be precise. The first church I remember attending is Donald Smith Memorial Baptist Church in Oaklawn, Illinois. It was kinda-sorta behind our house. It was a rectangular two-story building. The first floor was for "Sunday School" for the kids, the second floor was the main chapel. It was just pews, pulpit and a large head and shoulder portrait of Jesus above the choir loft behind the pulpit. I even remember Mrs. Cunningham was both my first grade public school teacher and my Sunday School teacher. She would seek out my Mom every Sunday morning <sigh> I couldn't get away with anything that year. I was too young to really understand who God was and what he did.
 
After 5th grade, my family moved to New Lenox Illinois. We started going to Ridgewood Baptist Church in Joliet. I don't remember too much about it. If my memory serves me correctly, both of my sisters, at one time or another, worked in the Church Office. it was another rectangular building with pews and a pulpit, with no pictures, statues or any other artwork. It didn't leave much of an impression on me. I don't know, maybe it was just because I was still young then. After a couple of years, my parents started going to the First Baptist Church of New Lenox. It was very small. Again, it was another rectangular building with pews and a pulpit, no pictures, statues or any other artwork. I don't remember much about it either. I was baptized into that church when I turned 18 and was on my way into the military. I think it was more of me "covering all my bases" than a real commitment. I was a senior in high-school, I didn't want to commit to anything. I had just joined the Navy because I didn't want to be drafted. At that time, all draftees were sent to Vietnam.

The military had all kinds of "chaplains" ironically, the only ones I met were Catholic Chaplains. It's "ironic" because my record clearly stated that I was Protestant.

My first ship, the USS Oriskany took me all over the Pacific and Indian oceans. Everywhere we went there was always a Catholic Church and the Catholic Chaplain always made it a point to invite me to "tour" a Church with him. Many of them were very old and very elaborate with sculptures, paintings and stained glass. Many people have what I will call an "uneducated view" of the religious sculptures, paintings and other artworks. The artwork in a Catholic Church comes from a time when most people could not read or write. Many of the great Masters could not read, but they wanted to glorify God. They did so through their artwork. What I see in especially the old Churches is the Bible in pictures and sculptures. Michelangelo, painter of the Sistine Chapel, creator of many statues - most notably, "David", architect of St. Peter's Dome, and much more, could not read or write; but he could praise God and preach the Gospel through his hands, to others who like him, could not read the scriptures but they could "read" his sculptures through his paintings and statues. It's the God that the artwork portrays that is being worshiped, not the artwork nor the artist.

Is it wrong to sit down and gaze upon a picture of someone long past, say, a parent? Someone you might have loved very much, and yearn for them to come back? Is it wrong to look at that picture and talk to that person as if he or she was there with you and tell him or her how much you miss him or her? Is it wrong for you to believe the person in that picture is in Heaven looking after you? Is it wrong to ask the person in the picture for help and believe that he or she is praying with you to God for an answer? Is it wrong to go to the grave-site of someone you love and discuss a problem with them? Is it wrong to ask that loved one to help you pray or to pray with you to God?
 
Through the Catholic Church, it's architecture, art, history and philosophy; I have come to know and believe in two families; my earthly one, consisting of my parents, sisters, wife's family and my spiritual family, consisting of Jesus, Mary and Joseph. Pictures of my earthly family come from cameras, pictures of my spiritual family were made by the Masters. Both are made by humans.
 
The Rosary - nothing seems to say Catholic more than the Rosary. I've heard many say that it isn't found in the Bible. That's true, very true, the Rosary is in fact not found in any Christian Bible. But, the Bible is in fact in the Rosary. Again, artwork created for those who could not read or write. The Rosary contains the New Testament, from the birth of Jesus to his death, resurrection and beyond. I use it every day as an aid in prayer, it helps to "make the world around me go away", so that I can speak and listen more reverently and clearly to God. If non-Catholics would just listen to the words or read the Rosary, especially the last sentence of the "Hail Mary," they would know that we are not praying to Mary or anyone else, we are in-fact praying only to God.  
 
My commitment to God and to religion did not happen over night. It happened over many years of searching self and soul; searching the earthly world and the spiritual world; searching various religions, cultures and ways of life. I have called on St. Peter, St. Paul and a few other saints who were once as human as I am now, in just the same way I still call on my Dad and Mom who have both passed away for advice. Catholicism as I know it, is not a religion, it's a way of life. A way of life defined not by anything earthly, but by a God that is open to everyone, a God who is compassionate but demanding unquestioned faith and belief.  
 
My self and soul search goes on and will keep going on; the earthly world tries to pull me in one direction, the spiritual world tries to pull me in another direction. I put no boundaries between my worlds, I try my best not to judge anyone in either world. I do my best to leave judgement to God.
 
It doesn't matter what we label ourselves as, Protestant, Catholic, Jehovah Witness, Methodist, ... What matters, to God, is how we live. Do we follow Jesus and his disciples? Or do we judge each other on how we go about our daily lives, how we as individuals worship, or how we as individuals interpret individual passages in the Bible? Do we throw away the Bible and peck at each other over "our" individual interpretation of individual passages of a very large book?

God made us all different, maybe we should accept the differences and accept each other as brothers and sisters the way Jesus accepted his disciples and all those who believed and had faith in him. "Catholic" is only a label, how and what I believe and have faith in along with how I worship is my way of life. It is between me and God and wrong for me to judge others on their way of life and wrong for them to judge me on how I live my life.

Lastly, through my research, Catholicism teaches me that I should not only "love" all of humanity, but that I should also respect everyone's race, age, sex, career, culture, customs, traditions, character, religion and their points of view. Essentially, as a Catholic, I should respect every aspect of every person's life. "Catholic" means universal. It is OK to respectfully disagree with someone but not OK to disrespect them or any part of their being. 

So, bring on your criticisms of how I live my life. I'll just pass them on to the Lord and let Him deal with them.